I think putting it all on women is a bit unfair and misguided. Perhaps questioning why women are opting out of relationships during child bearing years.. or choosing pets over children. It’s not that we don’t want to have children, it’s that we haven’t found quality partners. This is anecdotal for myself and many women I know. We now are in a society where we can provide our own financial security, so we need something else or something more from men that maybe wasn’t as much of a requirement in the past. And why aren’t we asking if men will regret being “child free”? If a larger percentage of women aren’t having children that means some men are since it takes both to make a baby. I’m kind of thinking out loud as I type this, just fyi.
I'd just say it's not a trap but if you don't want kids tell your partner, they can then decide to move on and settle down with someone else that wants a family .
Nature is unfair I’m afraid. Biologically men can delay fatherhood, women can’t delay motherhood. This is something that isn’t explained nearly enough, if at all. To avoid the demographic slide I’m afraid it’s up to women, not men. That means if a woman wants children she must refuse to settle down with any man who either doesn’t want children, or wants to postpone children. Many men will happily avoid the responsibility of fatherhood until it’s too late for their partner. They have the option to leave for a younger fertile partner. I’m not saying they would do this, just that it is an option some take - and yes, it can cause much bitterness and heartache for older women who are childless AND then find it much harder to find another partner.
My partner of 16yrs wouldn't commit and I wouldn't have children out of wedlock . 10 yrs in he announced he didn't want kids . I'm 57 now and it's way too late , regrets maybe , it just makes things less complicated now if i meet someone. I won't date someone that still has school age children that are dependent on them. It works both ways ,men always ask if I have children at home because they don't want the hassle of dealing with the kids ... it's a deciding factor for lots of people . My former partner who is 60 has now got a child who is nearly 2 , this was a kick in the guts for me when I found out.
I think putting it all on women is a bit unfair and misguided. Perhaps questioning why women are opting out of relationships during child bearing years.. or choosing pets over children. It’s not that we don’t want to have children, it’s that we haven’t found quality partners. This is anecdotal for myself and many women I know. We now are in a society where we can provide our own financial security, so we need something else or something more from men that maybe wasn’t as much of a requirement in the past. And why aren’t we asking if men will regret being “child free”? If a larger percentage of women aren’t having children that means some men are since it takes both to make a baby. I’m kind of thinking out loud as I type this, just fyi.
I'd just say it's not a trap but if you don't want kids tell your partner, they can then decide to move on and settle down with someone else that wants a family .
Nature is unfair I’m afraid. Biologically men can delay fatherhood, women can’t delay motherhood. This is something that isn’t explained nearly enough, if at all. To avoid the demographic slide I’m afraid it’s up to women, not men. That means if a woman wants children she must refuse to settle down with any man who either doesn’t want children, or wants to postpone children. Many men will happily avoid the responsibility of fatherhood until it’s too late for their partner. They have the option to leave for a younger fertile partner. I’m not saying they would do this, just that it is an option some take - and yes, it can cause much bitterness and heartache for older women who are childless AND then find it much harder to find another partner.
My partner of 16yrs wouldn't commit and I wouldn't have children out of wedlock . 10 yrs in he announced he didn't want kids . I'm 57 now and it's way too late , regrets maybe , it just makes things less complicated now if i meet someone. I won't date someone that still has school age children that are dependent on them. It works both ways ,men always ask if I have children at home because they don't want the hassle of dealing with the kids ... it's a deciding factor for lots of people . My former partner who is 60 has now got a child who is nearly 2 , this was a kick in the guts for me when I found out.